On Falling In Love With My Best Friend and Why I’m Well and Truly Fucked.-- A Bisexual Love Story

I have a dilemma: I am in love with my best friend.

This is a problem for so many reasons and the only way I’m getting through it is by writing so I guess I’ll post it here. Maybe someone can help, maybe it will help someone. Maybe it will just be cathartic.

I’ll start at the beginning, and then explain why I’m well and truly fucked.

We’ve been best friends for almost three years now. We always lived in the same area and were acquaintances but never attended the same school so we weren’t particularly close- our paths never crossed to allow it. However, almost three years ago, a bizarre twist of fate meant we ended up chatting. We discovered we had the same music taste and a similar sense of humor and never looked back since.

Two and a half years later, we chat everyday, have been to seven concerts together and have had some incredible experiences.

But in the past few weeks, I have developed an extreme crush on my best friend. Whenever we’re together, I no longer just see my best friend but lips I want to kiss and hair I want to put my hands in and hands I want to hold. But this is really, really, really bad.

My best friend is a girl. And I’m a girl.I always think I'm straight before.So I found I'm bisexual from then.

I live in a very rural area where religion reigns supreme and heterosexuality is the only acceptable form of love. My parents would not approve. My family is well-known and respected in the way families of a certain type are in rural areas, the type that go to church on a Sunday and all volunteer within said church, and your mother volunteers with the local centre and your father coaches the local football team and your sisters are both excellent football players and you’re a straight A student and everyone views your family as perfect and your family makes sure this is the way, perfecting and refining a facade you wouldn’t dare shatter. Loving a girl isn’t an option. Ever.Lesbian is just weird from their eyes.

And then there’s the problem of whether my friend would ever like me back and god, I never wanted to like girls and I had convinced myself I liked guys, I did-I did-I did and maybe I do but I just like her more.

And whenever I used to listen to live songs I used to roll my eyes or related them to my OTP but now everything is her, and it’s always been her I think, I’ve just realised it recently but god, it can’t be her.

And I’m caught in this limbo of crying and wishing and writing and listening to She by Dodie Clark and crying some more.

I feel trapped, suffocated and I can’t escape.

I’m just going to keep writing about her until I figure it out.

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A Bisexual Test

Every person has a bisexual tendency, which the study of a number of experts supported this view.  And Freud has put forward the concept  "psychological and sexual love". Are you sure about your orientation one hundred percent? Perhaps one day in the world, it is incredible to subvert  your tendency completely until you meet the other .Dare to listen to your inner voice of the two of the bisexual sound? Make this test!

One : Is there a thought that there is no resistance to marriage?

Answers:    Yes ( )     No( )

Two:Through a window, do you look at yourself in the mirror?

Answers:    Yes( )      No( )

Three：Do you support gay marriage as a legal marriage? 

 Answers:   Yes( )      No( )       No care( )

Four: If there is nothing on weekdays, you will choose?

Answers:  Stay at home ( )   Eat with friends( )  Walk to garden( )

Five:Do you think there is a girl who has a tendency to "lily" in your friends?

Answers:  yes and many( )   no or a little( )  i don't understand ( )

Six: You now, hope that the opposite sex can give you their own happiness?

Answers:  yes( )         no( )

Seven:Are you  very disgusted with the monster?

Answers:  yes( )         no( )

Eight:If your boss is a shrewd but neutral style bold crisp one of the boys,  will you admire her?

Answers:  yes( )         no( )

Nine: If you find yourself a homosexual, will you be afraid? 

Answers:  yes( )         no( )

Ten:Usually like to watch anime?

Answers: yes( )          no( )

If your answers of third,fourth,seventh,eighth,ninth is "yes", you may have a bisexual tendency, but don't be sad and worried , this is a right thing that you have recognized and understood yourself. I think everyone may have the right of pursuing happiness. so we are bisexual, we are proud of it. Because we are unique!

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Romantic Sexuality -- Bisexual

Is there a better word or phrase for what I’m trying to say? I bet. I’ve got no clue. Feel free to tell me if you know.

I first started thinking about being bisexual in the end of 7th grade, and then it was a very hazy, unsure thing. It was like a random idea I had one day, and then I was scared that I wanted to think about it more so I didn’t think about it for quite a while, not until well into 8th grade and even then I was scared to think about it much.

Freshman year of high school, I struggled a lot with defining myself and finding labels that fit. I debated with myself a lot over being bi versus being pan, and I thought of myself as poly(sexual) for a bit, because I wasn’t thinking of and defining bisexual/bi romantic properly back then, and I knew I liked more than just guys and girls.

The summer between freshman and sophomore year is when I found that I felt most comfortable with the term bi romantic. I choose bi over pan, because although I will happily date a person of any gender, gender does have an impact on whether I like a person or not. For instance, I haven’t really found my comfort zone with liking females yet, because as a rule I always see girls as friends first and only let myself think about considering them romantically if they display interest. Also, I don’t like blond girls, not generally. Unless their hair is short or dyed, it just makes me uncomfortable for some reason, and I don’t even have many blond friends. I don’t know, I’m just weird. Guys, I’m much more flexible with because I have a much wider range of options. Also, a lot of guys my age are undesirable for me, so when I like a guy, I tend to like him a lot quickly, and then completely lose romantic interest and then kinda any interest at all. Yes, I know, I’m rough. I know I can be pretty rude, I’ll address that later, don’t worry about it.

Non-binary people are a whole different ballgame, especially since I don’t really know any in my area, I have two friends who might be, but 1. I’m not sure and 2. one is in a relationship and the other is too, well, high-maintenance for me, and 3. no, just no, they’re my friends and only that. So yeah, no romantic partners outside the typical gender binary for me, at least not yet. It’ll happen. Hopefully soon.

So yes, I’m bi romantic. And not many people know that, but I hope someday I’ll be able to safely be out to my family without them being upset and them understanding, but that doesn’t seem likely. As a bisexual man,I'm just looking for bisexual woman in my school with my dude who is also bi.I hope we all will find our true love finally.


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Coming Out Is Important

Share a story of coming out,hope you all have a nice coming out experience.

I’ve always wanted to admit to my family that I’m no straight guy. Like, “Hey mom and dad, I’m bi.”

Seriously speaking, I can’t express myself much in the family which causes many problems for me. It’s sad that I’m afraid of being ridiculed to a lot of family members. Secrets have wings in our family. I hate that. I know they’ll accept me but I can’t handle the way they will treat me in the future as if I’m not going to be offended. Di pa nangyayari Peri ganun nangyayari eh. They support me but they’ll make jokes which turns on the hidden switch of hatred, anger and annoyance to which I grew up in. It’s their fault. I had short temper in family because dahil din naman sakanila. Peri still, I want to express more about what I want in life, what I like in life, and the varying interests and also the conflicting interests of mine.

I’m open about my sexuality, especially to my closest friends. They usually freak out but they’re cool with it to an extent that I know they are really uncomfortable so I just let it pass sometimes ,but most of the time, they’re cool with it. I understand that they’re not like me. It’s normal to get uncomfortable but I hope people aren’t ashamed of who I am or probably, who we are.

Coming out is important. I don’t want to be judged behind my back. Judge me up front. That’s okay. We, as part of this community of people who go beyond or against the odds of the world, need to come out as part of being accepted in this society full of backstabbers and liars. Admit it. What if I didn’t tell you I was bi? Probably you’re going to say to the closest friend you can tell, “Is he gay or something?” or think about it whether how are you going to act. It sucks if it’s like that. I don’t want myself to become a topic on whether it’s a rumor or a reality. That’s why we come out. We want the things real for us, real for you too. We don’t have to hide but society wants us to hide but it's just unfair.And we need a better way.


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Do you really know about bisexual?

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which the one with it can interested in both men and women.For some people,it may sound like a super power--double romantic choice means double opportunity,right?however,it is regarded as an embarrassed identity for bisexuality in reality.Bisexuals are not 'straight',so it's hard to believe that they belong to the majority in terms of sexual orientation.On the other hand,they are often considered to be heterosexual,especially when they have heterosexual couples,which sometimes makes it difficult for them to feel associate themselves with LGBT groups.

The most important is that bisexual is vulnerable to serious misunderstandings.There are a lot of rumors and stereotypes around bisexual,some of which are even contradictory.And whether heterosexuals or LGBT are likely to hold these stereotypes,which adds to the difficulty of bisexual integration of the two groups.Fortunately,a growing number of researchers became interested in bisexual in recent years,and the researches enhanced our understanding of bisexuality.Here are three examples of how science fight against misunderstanding of bisexuality.

Rumors 1:bisexual does not exist

I think this ridiculous rumor in particular:How can you say to a group of people they do not exist? However, this owner either heterosexual or homosexual thoughts widespread, especially among men. Sadly, even in the most tolerant of the LGBT circles, you can sometimes hear "There is no such thing as bisexual man" argument.

In a study recently published in the "Archives of Sexual Behavior" magazine, researchers have put the rumors completely overturned. They convened a number of heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual men, playing more than porn movie clips for them. The subjects were asked to evaluate only those fragments they were evoke subjective feelings, but also to connect the device to measure their physiology changes in penile circumference (ie, sexual excitement).

As expected, when heterosexual men watching female performances of the film, the subjective feeling of excitement to be significantly higher than men watch movie performances, the situation is just the opposite of gay men. However, the degree of bisexual men were aroused male and female images are relatively close. They are bisexual video - two male and one female starring video - degree evoke higher than the other two groups. Importantly, these differences while reflecting the extent of appealing to their own report and the very objective of sexual excitement data. Therefore, from a study it is clear that these people are not "pretending" bisexual.

Rumors 2: bisexual just a phase

This rumor to portray an experimental stage bisexual or confused state - usually occurs during college. After bisexual or will determine their "real" identity (or decide himself whether straight is bent).

Lisa Diamond for this subject carried out some very complicated work, and she observe on her long observation period of the female gender identity. In an article published in "Developmental Psychology"  paper , Dr.Diamond report a number of her close attention to a woman more than a decade.

The results unambiguously show that bisexuality is not a transition phase: when puberty is positioned as bisexual women at the end of the study, only a few changes to their position as heterosexual or homosexual (only 8%). However, the orientation of bisexual women is always changing with time. In decades of research cycle, the extent of their interest in both sexes has been constantly shift.

Rumors 3 : Bisexual not loyal companion

This is probably the most vicious rumors. It comes from the idea of ​​a partner can not fully satisfy people interested in both sexes. Some people think, sooner or later they will desire sex with a partner who dissimilar. For example, people tend to think that, with respect to heterosexual and homosexual population, the bisexuals are more likely to deceive their partners.

In fact, many bisexuals one has a happy relationship with their partner. For example, when the decades' study of Dr.Diamond ended up, up to 89% of bisexual women are in long-term monogamous relationships. In addition, with regard to those who want to get more sexual partners of bisexual, studies show they often through the establishment of an open relationship with their partner talks to achieve this goal, rather than carrying around a private partner to act. I could not find any research supports the thoughts that bisexual sexual orientation is not enough loyal or honest than other people.

Overall, the scale of bisexual is still small but the growing field in research has a bright future. It not only dispel a lot of rumors and misunderstandings surrounding bisexuality, but also on sexual activity in general offer interesting insights. And other sources of popular culture or the media is different from scientific research that the bisexuality is a relatively stable and lasting aptitude characteristics. We need more research to more thorough understanding of bisexuality and monosexuality (ie, heterosexual and homosexual) similarities, and perhaps unique place.

Date a Bisexual

In many people's eyes,dating a bisexual can be a horrible thing. Are they always checking out everyone? Will they finally leave you when they realize what they truly want? Well, for starters, the answers are no and no. Besides,heterosexual can do that,so please don't judge them in this way.Dating a bisexual can be just like dating a Catholic, a race car driver, or a brunette. That is, it doesn't really matter. You just need to put your concerns away and relax in your relationship. 

To date bisexual,you should lay your psychological burden down,or you will pay all your attention to his/her sexuality rather than other things,then you will miss lots of information you should know about the man/woman.
And since you agree to date a bisexual,you’d better not to talk much about sexuality,just talk about other things in life as usual.As bi,they may have a tough time before,so speaking to sexuality,they might be unhappy.
Anyway,dating a bi is not a bad thing,you can enjoy it,they love both men and women,so they know how to get along with you more clearly.

Bisexuals are just greedy

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What is greed? It's not 'greed' when someone likes chocolate cake and fruit salad. Greed isn't a wide range of desire or attraction; it's excessive attraction. Some people seem to confuse being attracted to more than one gender with being attracted to everyone. We think that is rather silly - it's a bit like saying that lesbians or straight men are attracted to all women, or straight women and gay men are attracted to all men.